Hi guys. My godson has been sexually abused for at least 2.5 years. He first told us of the abuse when he was 3. His father has been forcing him to do things no child should even witness much less have to perform.
We've been in court for the past 2 years fighting to get him protection. They don't believe it's happening. They say since he won't tell strangers (CPS that comes to check the claim) he's lying...and since he only tells his mom, his psychologist/psychiatrist who he told AFTER developing a rapport with, and me that his mom is making these up.
Yesterday we received a decision from the courts and they're giving the dad, the incestuous pedophile, FULL custody of my godson. CPS has previously threatened to bring my friend up on charges because she reports what my godson says to them.
PLEASE...if you know anyone...give them my name and email. We've put a stop on the decision so he'll come home (he's been at the pedophiles home for the past 2 weeks because it was standard visitation Christmas). The new magistrate cited the old magistrates decision in her ruling. The issue with that is he was recused due to ethical reasons and he didn't stand down at the beginning. It took 2 years just to get that fixed and the new magistrate USES his stuff. She never listened to the school counselor, the friends, the dr's that have done court ordered psych evaluations on both of the parents that show the father is an actual threat to children and should not be left unsupervised with a child until all allegations have been dealt with.
Please...pray, send energy, meditate, light a candle....share the story but please....help us protect my Godson. Courts aren't doing anything and while I'm REALLY trying to give the problem to God I keep feeling if I share this with 1 more person...maybe they're that one.
Courts said without physical proof they'll do nothing. We need physical proof or a complete confession. PLEASE. I am begging for each of your prayers,hope and support in anyway you can give it. Pray he starts telling all the strangers (CPS), there's physical proof that doesn't cause irreparable harm to his little body. They said he need to have tearing or a STD for there to be proof. The abuse has to stop. They're sending him to live full time with a pedophile. They told my friend she'll have to undergo psych evaluation as she's sick for destroying the father son bond and will be granted supervised visitation until she can show she's ...I don't know.
I KNOW this sounds....strange...and that she must have done something wrong. But she hasn't, all she's done is provide a stable home where her son is validated. The school counselor and even the CPS couldn't find fault in how secure my Godson is. The court ordered CPS evaluator did say that he's exhibiting signs of abuse but they're ignoring it. But, they threaten to put her in jail for protecting her son by reporting what he tells her.
Please help anyway you can. I've contacted everyone in my phone book to put him on their prayer list at church or to include him in their meditations and thoughts. If you practice reiki send him strength to share with CPS. Loosen his tongue and share the trauma he's been through. His mom has talked with him about how his Daddy has a touching problem and needs to see a doctor to get him some help. ...it's not helping him though...he still wont' tell CPS or the police. Why can no one see that even adult victims find it hard to share their story and they've the ability to reason it out sometimes...a child...doesn't.
Please help.
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I had a thought...one of the things we've read is that when a mother is in this situation she needs two things; 1.the best lawyer money can buy and 2. a Private Eye.
My friend has worked finances to where she has the best lawyer but she needs a private eye. We, her friends are all giving money to help with lawyer fees because good is expensive. But we NEED that private eye. If you would be willing to donate anything financial please do so. If you think this is whooy then donate just to get some information for your continent bins. But, please....research has shown that a private eye helps and often is the proof that's needed.
Please make a donation. All funds will go to getting a private eye. Thank you and if you make a donation leave your email addy and I'll send you a thank you gift of 3part cards I made over the spring of the USA and it's territories and possessions.
They have TONS of information...they cover the state, capital,area, when it became a state, location in the US, outline of the state, each states bird,tree,motto,flower...tons of info and cards I believe there are over 180 pages of information. yes...50 cards per state + the extra territories and possessions, 50 + for location, 50 info card for each state, terr & poss, 50+ where it is found in the state card, ...there's seriously a LOT of info good for 3-6 AND 6-9.
Honey
Discovering Montessori left a beautiful post but it made me realize I'd posted a name and I didn't want to. Thank you for this beautiful message. I greatly appreciate it.
ReplyDeleteI edited the comment to exclude that information. I hope you don't mind but I want to keep them safe and protected.
Honey
Discovering Montessori said...
This is really really horrible! If the father has told your godson that he would hurt him or anyone close to him then he believes he is protecting himself and his love ones. I have had experience with this type of situation before. It hurts!! I am really curious what state this is happening in with the courts. I don't understand how he gained full custody. By any chance could his father job have anything to do with this? It might sound strange asking, but it appears from what your sharing, that someone is protecting his father for some reason or another. If his father has had contact with other children seek some information from them if the children parents are willing. I can assure you that unfortunately it didn't just start with your godson. Look real close into the fathers' childhood and family the answers may be right there. I am going to pray for him as much as humanely possible! He will survive!! continue to support him and his mother. Keep his mother as strong as possible! and as close as possible. It will come to a positive end . Lets pray sooner than later. Keep us posted because sometimes strength comes in numbers.
December 30, 2010 11:44 AM
Discovering Montessori-
ReplyDeleteThe father won custody due to the fact the magistrate says my friend is destroying the father son bond with these accusations and that it's odd how the only person that's heard these allegations was the psychologist (who they discredited) he was first seeing. The other side said my friend knew the Dr because she worked with her and was in on all of the therapy sessions my godson had. She didn't know the dr and yet...despite having actual PROOF my friend has never worked for OR attended the college the Dr worked for...they still are saying they worked together and were friends. My friend also never participated/attended/sat in on any of my Godson's therapy sessions as she didn't want to put my godson in a situation where he couldn't be entirely free. That reason and I don't think she could hear again what's done sexually to him. I know I couldn't volunteer to hear it. It's hard enough hearing it when my friend tells me and the times my Godson has told me of the abuse.
The father's lawyer was once a judge in the courts and was kicked off the bench due to accepting bribes. I am amazed he's still allowed to practice law, but...I in my opinion I really think there is some kind of bribery going on still. How else could such an injustice happen if Justice is truly blind and weighs the information? Perhaps Justice needs to check her scales...someone's got a thumb on it.
She (my friend) is in a court system and a county that is unable to handle incest and sexual abuse much less a combination. There needs to be a huge clean up and education throughout the courts and CPS 'cause they're over worked, under educated and over whelmed and can only see broken bones, STD or tears as proof.
The courts and CPS need to realize there's a new breed of parent that educates theirself on how to best protect their child. Parents are about validating and seeking answers on how best to support and protect their child. With the internet and interlibrary loan everyone has access to studies. It's no longer a world where you have access to info by someone giving you the brochure and you leave it up to "the professionals". This is a world of educated, active, and involved parents seeking to work through and lesson the fallout that comes from trauma.
Are we not parents that can read and decide for ourselves? Are we not parents that work to provide the best we can for our children based on their strengths and weakness? Why do they believe that if we work so hard during good times when our children are not being hurt we'd stop when they are? I know I saturated myself in research and figuring out how to help Tyler when we found out about the SPD. You think I would stop because of sexual abuse?...no...I would not stop...and neither did my friend. Because she's a good mother that does all she can to protect her child. Because that's our jobs as mothers...to protect our children.
Honey
I feel for you your godson and everyone involved. I unfortunatly can say that I know how your godsons feels. I hope something will change for you soon for the better.
ReplyDeleteyou will be in my thought and prayers
Honey,
ReplyDeleteThis is awful email me privately I'd like to help.
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Hmmm.... just encouraging you to "think" about blogging again! So, what are those kiddos up to? Are they studying anything right now? Any recent experiments? Have you found any great finds?
ReplyDeleteOh, and you've exceeded your bandwith with photobucket, and your blog has some CrAzY banners on it letting everyone know you've exceeded your bandwidth.
Love you, dear!
It's been so long since you've posted anything., Just wanted to check in with prayers and best wishes...
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